Hey maaaaaan. Rob Lee where and here’s something I’ve noticed: Why do jobs suck? Why are people always dreading work? Why is work considered a pain? We slog through that 8, 10 or 12-hour drudgery to maintain a lifestyle that cyclically fuels the stress of the job. Questions like “how will I pay for this?” pop up. It’s constant stress. Then on the backend of that long, arduous day we want to feel good and that impacts our diet – we’ll look for comfort foods and tv shows or vices to numb that pain. We’re in pain because we know that the employment beast needs you to sacrifice hours of your life to sustain it. These are questions that run in my mind all day.
I often ponder why. Why am I doing this? It runs so counter to who I’ve become. Sure, early on in life I wanted to get a job and make money. As I matured that goal changed a bit to “I want to get a job to make money to do creative shit” Then the creative shit started to cost more than I would expect but I was fulfilled there. With that increase I needed the job more than I would have liked. I was comfortable then it came crashing down. I lost the job – my creative shit – namely my podcast – was in limbo. Questions like “how will I redesign my website?” or “what if my computer or mic gets broken?”. So that job stress latched on to my protected creative shit. I hated that.
Let’s take a step back and consider a scenario: what if you went to a job and made them an offer instead of this “hat in hand” approach we’re accustomed to? How do you think that would turn out? I think part of the job approach is considering that they have and opening that you’re interviewing – this is all before the “assimilation” period. They need you as much as you need them – they can be arrogant with your time – scheduling an interview that lasts hours and with multiple people that you’re working with. What if you brought your husband or wife since work is a relationship and they will impact you other relationships. I think it’s fair that your partner also knows what you’re getting into. That wouldn’t fly. We accept norms and appropriate way to conduct one’s self. I used to be mediocre at interviews. I would be nervous and it would peek through during interviews and I would come off as not a viable candidate. Nowadays, I am still nervous but I make a concerted effort to be arrogant, to match the energy I receive. I mean like mad reckless – I treat the interviewers like they are being interviewed because guess what – they are. I fake it just enough that I come off as a type A personality in front of the interviewers. While in front of HR, I’m regular old me. That hat-in-hand shit is desperation only, some people call it hunger and they’re wrong.
Also, worth considering, your time is important – jobs play with it and are not respectful of it. You’re on a blind date essentially, why should it take two-hours when it’s purely convenient for they hiring manager. It’s rare in my experience for a hiring manager to accept a skype interview or Saturday interview. That doesn’t work for them but, if you want the job, it has to work for you. That’s not really a choice – most jobs don’t consider that you already have a job. You’re spending hours of personal time or vacation or working an extra hour to meet with them so they’re able to “kick your professional tires”. It’s all strange. Further, you never get a good understanding of the people you’re working with, your work or office culture until being embedded for months – not a few hours. It’s hard to tell, based on people “selling you on a job” of how the job, the office and the people actually are. Because, remember, they want to fill the position or, best case, they want to hire you. So it’s pretty pointless in many cases. Like, sure, some people can read others quickly but many people cannot. So you’re locked into a bad contract with the terms of “your time, health and effort for a place that may not be a fit for you.” Often, you’re questioned , “Does it pay well”? That’s only half of the equation in my mind – and the other half is “what does it cost?”