He towers over her – a variation of more than 1 foot. She’s slightly north of 5 feet while he’s well over 6 feet. He is a man described as rebellious, intimidating and mildly mercurial while she was the opposite in many respects. She is a writer, well read with a strong vocabulary while he uses the gift of gab to conceal his abhorrence for reading. He’s structured, always planning, his mind the ever-rotating hamster wheel while she’s calculated, precise and considerate. She has the power over him – she’s in control and knows how to exhibit that control, he admires that.
He believes a man’s approach to a relationship is much-like an unskilled boxer’s approach – straight ahead – taking damage to give damage. In his mind, that’s not effective for the long term. He also believes that women are more refined and exhibit a methodology more akin to Judo, “the gentle way”, where women don’t have to nudge, urge or coerce their partner like the aforementioned boxing analogy – simply, women use the energy of their partner to reach the desired result. He admires Judo. You don’t get hurt in a Judo match, he thinks. He’s learning Judo from her.
She is his partner, his mistress, his mead – intoxicating, amber-like and from a heaven-like plane. She seeks to understand him, allows him to be free while wanting him close, she’s a mentor in many ways. She’s his penny – wise, foolish and his candy. He’s is her Scotch , bold yet smooth and not for everyone – an acquired taste. He’s her protector, prepared to destroy anyone who hurts her while still capable of providing love, companionship and deference.
Both are travelers with no destination. Mutually they feel that the destination is where they’re at in a given moment, the destination is alone and together.